When the unexpected happens, go with it

Things happen in life that are totally unexpected. They knock the wind out of our sails for a period of time until we realise our happiness is not determined by anyone on the outside. Our happiness comes from a place deep within us. It is totally derived and maintained by us. No one can make us happy and they certainly can’t take our happiness away from us unless we allow them.
Life throws us challenges us from time to time. To allow us to dig deep into our souls and hearts to determine what it is we truly want and desire. To make us redefine the lines of the box to suit ourselves. To force us to go deep within. To reflect on our authentic selves. To pull out all the stops to enable us to become whole.
Sometimes the decisions we make or thought we were going to make are not the ones that will lead us to where we need to go. And when we discover this is the case, it does not make sense asking what if, should have, and could have because the past is done. We made that decision based on where we were at that time and the resources we had available to us. As time moves on we discover that the decision we made was a temporary one to help us to understand more about where it is we truly want to go.
When we reach the point where we need to make major decisions about where to go next, what to do next, it’s then that we need to call on our inner power. It takes a lot of courage to change direction, to take the first step particularly when we are afraid we will fail. Or people will talk about us. Or even be disappointed with some of our decisions. It is these times that force us to be brave enough to accept the only lives we have control over are our own. We can only please ourselves. No one else. If we do things to please others than eventually it will show because we won’t be able to maintain the façade.
No one wants to end up looking at the end of their lives regretting living someone else’s life rather than their own. Not pursuing their own happiness because they were too busy trying to make everyone else happy. No one does so why wait until it’s too late when we have the ability and power to change direction every single second, every single minute, every single hour of every single day.
Because as Oprah says, “What I know for sure is this: You are built not to shrink down to less, but to blossom into more. To be more splendid. To be more extraordinary. To use every moment to fill yourself up.”