Outside looking in

How do we become defined in life? At what point do the limitations creep into our psyche forcing us to believe that we are only meant to attain so much and no more?
How do we become who we are? Where does our belief system come from? Why are some people more successful than others and it doesn’t matter the background? Why do some people handle crises better than others? Who are we really?
This morning I woke up feeling like I am having an out of body experience. Outside myself looking at my physical and internal being with this stream of questions coming back at me. Forcing me to really look at myself and try to answer some of these questions.
I got a stream of answers with the focus being that I need to accept that what is is and karma is not a result of our actions but a result of our reactions to whatever happens to us. Another answer I keep getting is there are no definitions of who we are, no rights or wrongs, no mistakes, no limitations. Our lives are defined by the choices we make, the belief systems we cultivate, and the ability to live in the present moment and not project into a time that we have no control over.
We have total control over our own lives and no one person is better or luckier than we are, they just have the nerve to keep trying, keep slugging it out until they get what they ultimately want. The concept of success is also a shallow term because it is not all that it seems. A person can be materially successful but spiritually/ mentally poor and the reverse is also true. We are all guilty of judging people based on their physical and outward appearances without even taking into consideration their internal and spiritual wellbeing.
We also get caught up in the roles people play in life ie whether they are CEOs of companies, professional sports people, bestselling authors, etc but these are just roles they play within the confines of the structures they exist in. Once these people step out of these roles into their everyday way of being, that is when the real person emerges and this is the person we should be seeing not the role they have assumed.
There are many different layers to people, to life and to our spiritual wellbeing and that is something we all have to remember. We cannot worry about what other people have in comparison to us. We cannot worry about what someone else has to say about us. We cannot worry about circumstances beyond our control. We cannot diminish any pain we are feeling. We have to feel it for what it is and listen to what it is telling us.
At the end of the day we have to accept we are all individuals here on this earth to coexist as a human family, moving side by side, and we have to take care of our individual needs in order to grow and become contributors to our human family. Every one of us has a story to tell, different roles that we fulfil but at the end of the day we are all looking for love, validation and respect regardless of our backgrounds.