Someone recently told me I was very brave for sharing my
feelings on my blog. At first I didn’t understand what she meant until she
explained she always thought I was someone who had my life together who seemed
unflappable and she’s glad to know I am experiencing the same things as she is.
And then I understood.
There are some of us who carry ourselves in such a manner
that it looks like everything comes easy to us. That we sail through life. It
isn’t so. No one sails through life. Life knocks us all down at some point in
our lives. The difference between those who look unflappable and those who
don’t is the way we deal with those situations. No matter how many times we are
knocked down we keep getting up like the Black Knight in The Monty Python sketch who kept coming
back and saying, “It’s only a flesh wound. “ Even though he had no arms or legs
left , he didn’t want to surrender, to give in. He wanted to fight until he was
no more.
And that’s what people who seem unflappable keep doing. The
reason why I write my blog so honestly and openly is because I am learning
through my blog what I am really feeling. Who I truly am. What I am capable of.
And more importantly that I am not alone.
Writing exorcises so many demons for me that I don’t even
know are there. It brings things to the surface allowing me to confront them
head on. Not other people’s problems. But my own. Realising that yes sometimes
people may mistreat me, hate me even. But it is up to how I deal with myself
and my reactions to them that matter the most. I have learnt there is nothing I
can do about them or any situation that is not within me because I can’t
control it.
Writing has helped me to share because sharing opens my
heart to the plight of others and helps them to open their hearts because they
realise they are not alone. That no matter who we are, where we come from, what
we are perceived to be, each one of us has his or her own demons he or she is
dealing with because they are the essence of our growth.
I also know that my mother died at age 44 of a stroke
because she was so proud and so private about her life that she kept her true
feelings bottled up inside her. Possibly thinking her life was worse than anyone
else’s. Possibly too ashamed to let
people know the extent of her disappointment with life. She worried a lot. I now know that as an
adult. Her face had that constant crease of sadness. Of despair. Of feeling like
she had nowhere to turn. Until she went to bed one night and her mind exploded
from the weight of her worry causing her to have a stroke. Followed by a cerebral
brain haemorrhage one day later. She never woke up again. She died. She was
only 44.
I will not do that to myself. I blog now because I know how
difficult life can be sometimes but as long as I have an avenue to express my
feelings, to vent, I am sparing my life for another day from dying of worrying.
I am 48 now. Almost 49. Feeling blessed and grateful for
every day I get to share. Growing older with grace and wisdom. Knowing I am not
alone.
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