The most annoying people are our greatest teachers

When we are willing to accept every person and event in our lives as lessons to teach us  about ourselves, we become so much more receptive and grateful for them. They may not be what we want to remain in our lives and that is what they came to teach us. To highlight to us the limits and boundaries we must establish in our lives. The lines we must draw in the sand about the behaviours we are willing to accept. The compassion to know how to treat others so we will not inflict the same pain on others.

Every person has a limit to what she can and cannot take. A limit to the amount of intrusion he is willing to allow in her lives. Once that has been crossed what ends up happening is resentment. We resent the person for the intrusion. We resent their mere presence. But the only person we should be resenting is ourselves because we allowed them to cross that boundary and we continue to allow them to cross that boundary.

The most annoying people are our greatest teachers because they are the ones who are asking us to dig deep about an aspect about ourselves we have chosen to suppress, ignore, or pretend does not exist so we resent them rather than express gratitude for their presence. When we express gratitude for their presence within ourselves, the message from them becomes loud and clear. It becomes one of either having to change something about ourselves or becomes one of moving away.

But if we just chose to ignore the annoyance without learning from it, we will encounter the same problem over and over again just in different places and from different faces. We cannot run from our shadow selves no matter how elusive or clever we think we may be. Our shadow selves are always with us. Always there trying to overpower the light within us all. Always there trying to help us to become who we asked to come here to be. The balance between the light and the dark.

And when we get that message we see why that annoying person or event crossed our path – to teach us about who we are or who we are not.

With gratitude for every person and event that have occurred in my life and for all those people and events that will cross my path because I know they are there because I attracted them into my life by the energy I am projecting. So it is up to me to determine what I am meant to learn so their presence can either remain or be let go with gratitude and grace. With love and respect. Honour and peace. Recognising them as a gift from the Universe to help me to be more me. And not what people want me to be.

A hard lesson to learn sometimes particularly when we have to let go but a lesson worth it in the end. Especially when we are able to see through the annoyance to the treasure waiting for us to own as our own.