Setting personal boundaries is an honour to ourselves

Setting boundaries in our lives can be very challenging particularly when there are people that are very close to us who believe we always have something to give. We feel obligated to help them knowing that in helping them, we are taking from ourselves at times. Some people in our lives feel like we are always supposed to be there no matter what they say or do to us or expect for us to give regardless of what we are experiencing or going through.

There are some who make assumptions about the lives of others based on the external trappings they see but they have no idea what is really going on in people’s lives behind closed doors. Behind the physical trappings.

Sometimes there is just nothing more to give and when we realize there isn't,  we go to the extreme and close ourselves off from people to protect ourselves from their demands. From their desires. Because we need space. We need time to understand who we are under the guise we have put forward to the outside world.

Even the strongest people can be weak at times and sometimes they need comfort and support too but when the world thinks the strong ones are always strong or always have something to give, they keep demanding. Keep requesting. Keep asking.

But for all of us, even those who are strong, what we must establish are personal boundaries. Fences in our own minds about how much we can give before we become depleted. Before we turn our backs and move away because we cannot take any more of the drama or energy depletion that is happening to us. That we have allowed to happen to us because we failed to establish boundaries in the first place.

So it is up to us to establish boundaries early on. To be honest about what we can and cannot give. What we can and cannot take. That way no one can push beyond those boundaries unless we allow them to. Unless we give them permission.

Sometimes this boundary setting can be very difficult because when we are giving people, as I am most of the time, we don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. We don’t want to seem like we are rejecting anyone. Or being selfish. But at the end of the day if we keep giving, we  will end up being the ones who are feeling the most rejected because we will be rejecting what we truly feel deep down inside.

I am so grateful for my meditation this morning because I woke up feeling like I am constantly being asked to give. Constantly being asked to be the strong one. Constantly providing for everyone else. And I was struggling with the pressure. With the expectations of everyone else. And then I came to Day 6 of the Gratitude meditation to find the answer given to me at the right time by the Universe,  “Saying “no” can be a most loving gesture that insures a harmonious  future in any relationship.  When we honour what is most important to us, we honour others as well.”

It is okay,and more importantly, it is necessary to set boundaries in our relationships, whatever they may be, to allow for our relationships to flourish and not to be one-sided. Depleting and exhausting.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart Universe for answering my prayer, my call this morning, I am truly grateful. Because I know in setting personal boundaries I am honouring the place in me as I am honouring the place in others. Namaste.