Learning to love ourselves is the greatest love of all

When we learn to take responsibility for our own lives rather than blaming everyone else for where we are, only then will life open up for us. Only then will people remain in our lives because then we won’t be such a burden to them. Instead we will be able to help each other to grow and to learn. But when we are constantly blaming others for decisions we have made, we never learn the lessons we came here to learn and we find we are constantly facing the same challenges over and over again.

Learning about who we are on an intimate basis can sometimes be very difficult because it means having to deal with childhood issues we did not even know were there. And if we become parents we transfer those unresolved issues onto our children. Not intentionally but sometimes we do so to validate where we are in our lives. Causing our children to take on scars that are not their own.

Minding our own business rather than minding the business of others is very hard to do as well because when we mind our own business we have to be able to look the image in the eye that is staring back at us in the mirror and truly accept her for who she is. Who he is. Who we are. Some people can’t do that. Instead what they see looking back at them fills them with such pain that they go out and cause pain to others in order to justify their own pain.

In doing so they attract more pain into their lives because they do not know how to love and accept themselves. What I have learned over the years is in order for me to receive love, I have to be love. Embrace love. And be willing to walk away from those who do not know love. When I say this I am not talking about external love, I am talking about deep down internal love. Love of self first.

Taking responsibility for our own lives. Minding our own business. Learning about who we intimately are. Being able to face ourselves, our inner most selves in the mirror. These traits only come when we truly and honestly love ourselves for who we are. When we face our internal demons. When we accept ourselves only then can we truly accept others for who they are without trying to make them change to what and who we want them to be. Only then can we decide who should remain in our hearts but not in our lives. Or who needs to remain both in our hearts and in our lives.

Our lives are the way they are. Our loves are who they are. Our circle is who it is because of who we are ultimately and the energy we project. We get what we give out. And if we want more positive in our lives, we must learn to love ourselves first. And once we do, life will open for us in ways we only imagined. Learning to love ourselves is the greatest love of all because it is the greatest gift we can give to ourselves and to the world. It allows us to stop blaming while opening us u[p to take responsibility fo who we are, the decisions we make and who remains in our lives.  Namaste.