Taking the time to unravel our minds

When we start thinking of regrets and regrets only, that’s all life becomes. When we are too hard on ourselves for decisions we did not make rather than focusing on the decisions we did make, we forget the magic that happens every day for us.

When we focus on what we didn't do rather than on what we have done and are doing, life becomes a chore.

When we think we are standing still rather than looking at the small steps we are taking, life becomes too overwhelming for us.

Sometimes we just have to accept we are where we are meant to be even if it is not where we thought we would be. As there are no mistakes therefore we ought not to feel regret.

However we are human and because we are human, we will from time to time find ourselves trapped in a funky place. A place where there are nothing but regrets. Clouding our judgment. Putting us in a place of fear. And when we are in this place of fear, we lash out at those around us. Needing to find someone or something to blame for the place we find ourselves in. Rather than accepting that we are responsible for the choices we have made, the decisions we have not made, the opportunities we have chosen not to pursue, the paths we chose not to go down.

We cannot blame someone else for taking what we felt was our place because we opened the door for them to do so. We cannot become angry that life seems to be working out for everyone else around us while our lives seem to be going nowhere. Everyone is where they are based on decisions they have made and decisions they have made not. Including us.

When we do find ourselves in this place, The Waiting Room as Dr. Seuss so aptly called it, as we will from time to time, it is up to us to really ask what it is that we want from life, for our lives, in our lives then when receive the answer, be willing to take the chance, to step out there to be exposed rather than hiding in the place of blame and shame and regret. Rather than remaining in the Waiting Room. Afraid of making a mistake rather than continuing to feel we are living a mistake. 

Regret is what keeps us from seeing there is no such thing as a mistake. There are no mistakes in our lives – none whatsoever and we have to remind ourselves of that when we see opportunities pass us by. We need to shift our thoughts to tell ourselves that those opportunities were not meant for us yet. Only when we are ready will the time be right. Only when we are strong enough and brave enough to own our behaviors, our choices, our decisions, will we be able to take responsibility for our actions. Only then will we be able to step into the shoes of abundance and light with no regrets, no blame and no shame. Because we have taken the time to unravel our minds. Giving us the space to be who we are meant to be. Without regret. wWthout shame. Without blame.