Tuesday, 25 March 2014

A tribute to Elvis

A friend shared a story on Facebook about a young man called Elvis. And what caught my attention was the title, “This man gets $84,600 each morning and by the evening he is broke.” I had prejudged this young man thinking I was going to be reading about another young man wasting his life away on crack or heroin or some other drug. But for some reason I was drawn to his story and was I glad I followed my gut rather than listening to the negative stereotyping that was clouding my judgment.
I was pleasantly surprised to receive a wake up call from Elvis, Elvis whose mother died when he was 16. Elvis who was living on the poverty line because he had nowhere else to go and no one to turn to but himself. He was forced to accept his life was all about the way he chose to live out the 84,600 seconds he is given every morning when he wakes up. He learned to treat those seconds like precious dollars. Challenging himself to live out the seconds he wakes up with every single day as if he was a man who had options and because of his positive outlook, he opened himself up to receive the gifts, treasures  and abundance of the Universe. And in doing so, allowed himself to break free of the chains of his own mind which in turn opened him up to options beyond his dreams.
Teaching us that life truly gives us what we believe we are capable of achieving but most times we focus on what we don’t have rather than on what we do. Something as simple as being grateful for the 84,600 seconds we wake up with each day allows us to see the possibility in each day. Transforming our lives from mediocre to spectacular. From dreaming to doing. As Elvis manages to do every single day of his life and now he is living a  life of change and freedom because he knows no matter what life brings him on any given day in any given second, he will have another chance another opportunity to correct and be who he is meant to be.
What an inspiration – no longer will I think any second of the day is a chore because of this incredible young man. No I will tell myself I am so grateful for every second of every day because there are 84,600 of them in any given day – ample time for me to correct and change course. Ample time for me to see the glory in each second regardless of how weighted down I may seem because like Elvis my world was turned upside way before I understood what life was all about when my mother died when I was 13. But her death liberated me in some ways to know that every second of every single day counts because I learnt the hard way I never know when it will be my last. As did Elvis. Kindred spirits through time and space. Sharing a common story. From different backgrounds and different perspectives but connected nonetheless.
I used to live my life with abandon. Not worried about tomorrow. Just living for each second of each day until I grew mature and listened to naysayers reining me in. Corralling me because I allowed them to but now Elvis has come as my angel to remind me of how I never took any second of any day for granted. To remind me to think of the 84,600 seconds I am privileged to have for the days I am given them so I can be an inspiration to myself and to those who cross my path. To remember those seconds are worth more than money, more than gold, more than diamonds because as Elvis states, I can never get them back again. I can never gain interest on them. I can’t put them in the bank because at the end of every single day, they are gone. Never to be retrieved again.
So the question then becomes what am I going to do with those 84,600 seconds before they are gone forever? A game changer for me for sure… Namaste Elvis. Namaste to my friend for posting his story which I am sharing with you today and hopefully you will get a wake up call as I did from a young man who treats his 84,600 seconds as the gift they truly are….
Elvis' link is below for your enjoyment:

Monday, 24 March 2014

Security comes not from standing still

Last night I listened to a young lady called Tung Tung Chan on Tedx talk about the fact that we are all teachers. All students of life. A sentiment I agree with totally.
I have learnt over the years that the more I question, the more answers I get, the more questions I have because life is a process. A journey. So we are in perpetual motion. In order to keep up with our perpetual state of motion, we have to be willing to accept change and all that comes with it. In order to accept change, we have to be willing to accept that we are constant works in progress. That we are never stagnant unless we are dead. And because we are constantly changing, we must be willing to open ourselves to constant learning. To constantly be curious about new processes, new people, new situations. About life. Our journey. And not close ourselves off believing that when we do, no one will know we don’t know anything or understand the new place we find ourselves in.
For when we shut ourselves off and pretend we know it all, we shut ourselves off from growing more within ourselves. From becoming more than what we limit ourselves to being. By pretending we know it all, it becomes blatantly clear to everyone around us that we know nothing and we show signs of it to everyone including ourselves. Causing us to retreat. To hide. To be afraid that we will be found out without realizing we have already been found out because we have shown our ignorance to the world by hiding behind our arrogance. Our false sense of security. And when we do, we emit insecurity and we make mistake after mistake. Leaving us in a constant state of fear.
This young lady, Tung Tung Chan, I listened to last night is wise beyond her years because she gets that teaching and learning are personal. That everyone one of us is responsible for teaching and learning. For acquiring knowledge and sharing that knowledge. We cannot teach someone who has no desire to learn and we cannot teach if we have no desire to learn.  She gets that everyone has a part to play because teaching and learning are essential parts of life. That we are constantly teachers and students of life.
She ended her talk with the following quote, “The only man who is educated is the man who has learned how to learn, the man who has learned how to adapt and change, the man who has realized that no knowledge is secure, that only the process of seeking knowledge gives a basis of security.” Carl Roger 1969
This quote resonated so deeply with me because it reminded me that security comes not in believing we have arrived and know it all. Au contraire – security comes from constantly seeking and being willing to ask the questions. Being brave enough and smart enough to question and admit that we are constantly evolving, constantly changing and our sense of belonging comes from questioning, seeking, teaching and learning. Not from believing the knowledge we have to this point is secure because then we stagnant our growth. Hamper our journey and become mired in a destination that was not meant for us until death.
Instead we must accept in order for us to become educated we must learn how to learn, to adapt to change and embrace this process called life we are journeying in every single day of our lives. Secure in the fact that we are constant seekers of knowledge. Masters of our journey and never the destination. Namaste

Saturday, 22 March 2014

Marveling at the Cloud show yesterday afternoon

Yesterday afternoon I left work early or should I say on time. Exhausted from having stayed up all the night before to watch Scandal twice and Jimmy Kimmel in between because my man tony Goldwyn was interviewed. Wired from an exciting Scandal so sleep eluded me until 2.30 am. So by 3.30 yesterday afternoon, my whole being was screaming it needed some rest. Some R&R time. So when 5 o’clock rolled around, I was out there without guilt or shame.
I loved being home at a reasonable time from work. When the day was still young and the night was a few hours way. The day felt much longer allowing me to be more present in it. Particularly because my daughter, husband and I sat out on our back porch. She in my husband’s arm’s because she was not feeling well. I unfortunately had passed the bug I had the week before first to my son and now to my daughter. I guess it is that time of the year when germs have the chance to spread and grow and pass on.
So the three of us sat chatting about nothing and everything. Very relaxed on a Friday afternoon. Listening to our red bird singing his song. Watching him fly from tree to tree. And then my husband looked up at the sky and said, Look, there is Mysty in the sky.”
My daughter and I looked up and were delighted to see our Mysty shaped by the clouds. Chills ran through me as I knew our girl had come back to let us know she is okay. We were all so excited to see her image shaped by the clouds. Her trademark long ears. Her eyes shaped and looking down on us. She stayed with us for a while as she did when she was alive then the clouds dissipated and  changed again. Our girl now gone but because she had come opened us up to play the cloud game for a while. Seeing what we could see in the clouds. Sharks. Crabs. Whimsical shapes. Just the tree of us watching the clouds and enjoying each other’s company.
Making me realize just how much we rush through life so much that sometimes we forget to stop. Forget to take time out to do nothing but look at the clouds or whatever takes our fancy. Because when we do, we are always given a gift. A treasure from the Universe as we were given yesterday when the clouds formed into the shape of our beautiful rabbit, Mysty-Blue. Blessing us yesterday with her presence to let us know though we may part physically we are connected spiritually and through our hearts forever.
Nature is a beautiful thing. A wonderful reminder of how sometimes we just need to stop. To be. To accept we are where we are meant to be. That life will change as will we but we all have a purpose and sometimes that purpose is just learning to be patient, to stop, to marvel at life. To take time out and to wonder in the Nature show that presents itself to us every single day. As I did yesterday and I am so grateful I did.

Feeling blessed this morning to be who I am where I am at this present moment. Namaste.

Friday, 21 March 2014

World Happiness Day and the Spring Equinox

Yesterday was World Happiness Day and it was one of those days that truly lifted my spirit particularly because I felt when I looked random people in the eye and smiled at them, a burst of light and energy went from me to them then boomeranged back to me. Filling my spirit with such joy and delight. I loved every minute of World Happiness Day because I let go of anything that was too heavy for me to bear and instead lived on the light side of my journey. And it was beautiful.
Happiness is infectious because it is so liberating. So freeing. So beautiful. It starts with a small tinge and spreads like wildfire through our beings. Igniting us. Making way for passion to spring forth. Allowing us to be creative because we are so alive to the present moment.  No longer thinking or fearing anything that happened seconds before or that could happen seconds later.
I loved how I felt yesterday because every time I smiled at someone, they smiled back. Every time I told someone it was World Happiness Day, some would take a while for what I said to register. Others questioned what it meant. And where it had come from. Who had declared that yesterday was World Happiness Day? But most were intrigued by its meaning. And lifted by the thought of what it meant even the most cynical.
I discovered that when I added the statement, “make someone smile today”, I would naturally smile while saying it causing whomever I said it to to respond by smiling back. Making my smile grow even more genuine and larger. And anyone within our close proximity would feel the happiness energy and they would smile too.
Teaching me that happiness is truly a state of mind. An ability to surrender to all that is, was and ever will be. Accepting that we are where we are meant to be. That everyone and everything that crosses our path does so for a reason. Because when we smile. When we declare ourselves to be happy, no matter what I going on around us, we feel joy, contentment and peace.
I loved that yesterday was declared World Happiness Day because it fell on the Equinox of Winter and Spring, and the day here in Bermuda could not have been any more beautiful. So all of my senses were awakened to what it means to be happy. To be joyful. To be a bringer and spreader of love and light without expectation. Without preparation. Without understanding. Just by being fully present in the moment. Taking my smile with me wherever I went.
So I have decided that from time to time I will declare days to be World Happiness Days of my random choosing particularly on those days when I don’t feel I have anything to be happy about because that is exactly when I need to make others smile because in making them smile, I smile, others smile, we all smile and discover just how fortunate we all are. Just how blessed we are in this journey called life because we understand happiness is not a state it is a process just as we are. A journey that is neither stagnant nor frozen.
I am so grateful to have experienced my first World Happiness Day and here’s to many more. Allowing good thoughts to radiate from me changing me to be beautiful inside and out and spreading to those who cross my path as well.  
See how long it takes for you to remain unhappy when you listen to the Happy Song by Pharrell Williams. Hum it and feel how easy it is to be happy. Love it. Thank you world Happiness Day for spreading the love by allowing us to tap into the bountiful reservoir of our inner and natural place of happiness particularly on the first day of Spring. Because I'm Happy...

Thursday, 20 March 2014

Spring has Sprung, Happy Equinox

Yesterday as I was driving out of my yard, a bird flew right past my windshield and landed on a tree right next to me. Slowing me down enough to see blue out of the corner of my eye. So I stopped and looked to my left to see what bird had come to slow me down.  I was delighted to see it was a blue bird. Sitting proudly on the tree looking back at me. To say I was filled with joy is an understatement. I love blue birds. I think they are some of the most beautiful birds around. And when I saw him I was filled with a knowingness that Spring and lighter days are on their way.
Today is the first day of Spring, the equinox between winter and spring. The ushering in of lighter days. The ushering in of a change of season. I love this time of year when the winds start to die down or are not always as strong as the winds of winter. When the days start to get longer ushering in more light. I love the promise that hangs in the air at this time of the year.
Though we have not had a winter per se this year compared to the wrath of winter others have faced and I am so grateful for that, we still have had the long dark days and I am so ready for the light. For the light that comes from the dark.
This morning when I woke up I realized there was no sound. Only silence.  So silent compared to the nights gone by where the wind had been rattling and banging everything around. At first I could not understand what the sound was or should I say what the lack of sound was. Only after really listening I realised it was the sound of silence. The absence of sound that had captured my attention. Sitting up in bed, I knew and felt it was the sound of Spring coming in silently. Slipping in under the radar. Understated. But present.
And then I remembered my bluebird from the day before flying in front of me. Sitting in the tree next to me waiting for me to see him. To notice him. To feel the spring he was bringing with him. And I jumped out of bed, ready, ready for this new day, for this new Season, for the coming of the longer days of light full of energy and life.
May the sighting of the bluebird by me yesterday represent for me what it represents in spirituality where the bluebird is associated with contentedness and spiritual joy. Often predicting the occurrence of a happy condition or good tidings coming our way. Symbolic of transition or spiritual awakening. I am embracing the symbolism of that little blue bird who was brave enough to stop me in my tracks yesterday. Forcing me to see him, really see him as my omen that I am in transition, on the brink of spiritual awakening as are the seasons.

Spring has Sprung everyone. Happy Spring Equinox to one and all. May this Spring bring with it all the blessings and joy it represents. The light from the darkness. Namaste

Wednesday, 19 March 2014

Girlfriends, True girlfriends

Girlfriends
True girlfriends
Are the best
They come
To share
To help
To lift up
Girlfriends
True ones
Fill us with
Inspiration
Aspiration
And faith
They laugh with us
Deep guttural laughs
That make our whole beings shake
And vibrate
At the same frequency
The frequency of pure abandon
Enabling us to let go
Surrender
In the comfort of the grasp of our girlfriends
True girlfriends
Giving each other permission
To not worry about 
What we look like
Or what we say
Dropping the guards
We put up
Stripping off the armour
We put on
Because there is no need
To hide behind the shield
No need to be other than who we are
Springing forth conversations
Without judgement
Without fear
Deep and open conversations
Exposing our vulnerabilities
Revealing them
Peeling them back
Allowing us to nurture them
Rather than using our vulnerabilities as weapons
Against us
Girlfriends
True girlfriends
Stand by us through thick and thin
Never using any of our vices
As their victories
To tread on us
To make them feel more superior
Girlfriends 
True girlfriends
Honour our feelings
Help to balance us
As we do them
Girlfriends
True girlfriends
Understand 
There is a time and place
For everything and everyone
That sometimes we will be
On the same page
And other times we will not
That sometimes we will be
Physically present in each other’s lives
And other times we will not
Girlfriends
True girlfriends
Know when the time is right
There will be no distance between us
That the mental connection always remains
Such that when we are meant to be together
Time stands still
Reconnecting us
As if we had been together all along
Because we have
Being in the presence of girlfriends
True girlfriends
Is one of the most liberating
And awakening experiences
Because being in their presence
Opens our eyes to who we are
As it opens their eyes to who they are
Reflections of each other
Shadows of each other
Mirrors to each other
Girlfriends
True girlfriends
Are like the most precious jewels
Never to be taken for granted
Always to be treasured
Grateful for
And loved
Girlfriends
True girlfriends
What a breath of fresh air
Love my girlfriends
My true girlfriends
So grateful for having you in my life
This blog is dedicated to you
My girlfriends
True girlfriends
You know who you are
Scattered near and far
Physically
But always
Always
Present in my heart
With gratitude and love
Honour and respect
Namaste



Tuesday, 18 March 2014

Trusting our intuition

Trust your intuition
Your heart does not lie
Trust your intuition
Your heart does not lie
Trust your intuition
Your heart does not lie
You may ask why I have repeated this over and over again
You may ask whether I have lost my mind
You may ask what is she trying to say
I am trying to remind myself
Of the power of my inner voice
The power of my intuition
The power of my heart
The power of letting go
Of that which no longer resonates with me
The power of feeling the hairs stand up on my back
In the presence of those who need not remain
Or be invited into my life
I am reminding myself of the power I have
The power we all have
Over the darkness that comes into our lives
We always know the presence of the darkness
We always know the threat before it becomes a visible threat
We can feel it
Smell it
Sense it
Taste it
From a place deep deep within
That place that never leads us astray
That place that seeks to protect us
Shelter us from harm
But we over turn it
Over look it
Betray it
Push it aside
When we cast our eye too far
When all we see is the prize
The one that wants to lure us into its tangled web
To keep us in the dark
To keep us searching
To knock us off side
Keeping us from accepting
We are the masters of our Universe
Our own voice in the dark
But when we accept
We are the masters of our destinies
The queens of our throne
The kings of our kingdoms
We will never distrust again
The power of our intuition
The power of our hearts
Because they always know
Always warn us
Of the threat before it becomes a visible threat
We always know
Always know
When we are in the best place for us
With the best people for us
Doing what is best for us
All we need to get there
To ground ourselves
Is to accept and believe
To trust our intuition
Because
Our heart
Does not lie
Never lies
Just we do
And when we do
We end up
Lost
Stumbling in the dark
Rather than
Trusting our intuition
And accepting

Our heart does not lie